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Bible Study – THE RESPECT DARE

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How do you study your Bible? Do you do a topical study, such as ‘Fruits of the Spirit”; study a particular book, ie. Romans; or do you read a passage of scripture and then dissect it? Do you study alone, with your family, or in a group. Do you lead a Bible study, or simply participate, completing your reading and any assignments as you are instructed?
I have tried all three methods and have found each to have some great advantages, as well as some pretty good disadvantages as well. I have found good and bad aspects to studying alone or with others, and I have definitely found some significant differences in either leading a study or following along and participating.
Let me just tell you about my current and recent studies. First, I have toyed with the idea of leading a ladies Bible study for some time now and at the beginning of the year, I finally listened to God, and took the leap. Our group is small, only 3 of us, but that is perfect for us and the subject matter we are studying.
Our study guide is called, “The Respect Dare”. It started eating our lunch right from the get-go! The premise of this study is based on “The Love Dare” which is based on the movie, “Fireproof”, starring Kirk Cameron. The movie was a very good, clean, Christian movie, safe for all family members to watch. Because of some of the subject matter, and the fact that, though the movie is about a fireman, there is very little firefighting that goes on, or at least not the kind of firefighting where you see actual flames!! “The Love Dare” is a series of dares a husband is to complete for his wife, without her knowing he is doing so! Basically, he is expressing his love for her, while seeking nothing in return. He is learning to love unconditionally, as Christ loves us! This goes for 40 days, and when the dares are complete, the idea is that the wife will have fallen more deeply in love with him than she ever was because of the significant, loving changes she has witnessed in her husband! I’m not going to tell you any details about the film. No spoiler alerts here!!
Well, “The Respect Dare” is very similar to that, except it is written to wives, with dares to be completed to help the wife learn to RESPECT her husband as we are instructed to do in Ephesians 5:33, ‘Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence (respect) her husband.’
Do you have any idea how difficult it can be to respect your husband when you are having to pick up his dirty socks or underwear from the floor, RIGHT NEXT TO THE HAMPER! Or how about when you try to have a conversation with him, but the discussion ends up being one-sided!! Or when he says something to you that is extremely hurtful, yet he doesn’t notice that he has hurt you. His lack of noticing makes us think he just doesn’t care that he has hurt our feelings, AGAIN!
I have learned a great deal in this study. First and foremost, I have learned that, though my husband has faults and he may drive me crazy at times, the majority of the problem lies with me! If I can change my ways, change my attitude, adjust my reactions to things he does or says, I can virtually eliminate any arguing or fighting between us! Also, by my making these changes, I’ve noticed that he is slowly starting to change in some of these areas as well! But my focus is not on creating change in him. That’s just a perk! My focus is on changing myself, changing and improving upon my relationship with the Lord.
One of the main changes I have made? (Well, still working on it, but I’m getting better) I am trying very hard not to tell my husband how I think things should be done! Talk about a toughie!! But, I had to realize that if he wants my opinion on how something should be completed or handled, he will ask. If he asks, I simply offer my thoughts, (just the facts) without being condescending.
Another change is not letting myself get upset over unimportant things. Should we paint the bathroom cream or ivory? Aren’t they kind of the same? So, WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE???
Basically, we wives should be calm, considerate, CHRIST-LIKE, non-aggressive or cranky, always showing our love for our Father in Heaven, as well as for our husbands. We do that by cooking his dinner without complaining that we are having to stand over a hot stove after a really tough day corralling the kids! We do that by doing his laundry for him because we know that it would be really nice if he could sit and relax for a while rather than be standing up an additional hour or so, ironing his clothes to wear the next day! We respect our husbands when we refuse to speak negatively about him, to anyone…period! We should always be boosting our husband up, not tearing him down. Remember, if he goes tumbling down, chances are you will as well!
Take an opportunity, or several, to let your husband know how wonderful, talented, smart, creative, helpful, LOVED, he is. He is going to enjoy hearing that, or reading it if you send a text or a card, and he is going to love hearing it every single time that you tell him! So tell him often.
If he is doing or saying something that you know there is just no way you will ever agree with him on, ask him if you can discuss it. Then do so completely calm! Give him a chance to express his viewpoint without any interruption from you! Maybe parrot some of the things he says in order to give him confirmation that you did, indeed, hear what he was saying. Wait until he is finished, or until he asks, and then calmly express JUST THE FACTS!! Never tell your husband that “you always” or “you never”. Because no he doesn’t, and yes he does…in that order.
For example, “You never take out the trash any more and I have to do it!” “You always look at me like I’ve lost my mind when I mention trying that new restaurant.” Well, he probably doesn’t take the trash out because either you are nagging him about it and he is being defiant, (that would be me actually!!); he truly forgets to take it out; or he is usually in such a rush to get out the door that he just doesn’t get the trash taken out for fear of being late to work! Then comes the conversation between you two. Next, he probably doesn’t even realize that he is giving you the face he uses at work. Again, stick to the facts. Tell him that you like the way his face lights up when he smiles but if he really wants to play the silly face game, you will! Then give him a REALLY silly face in return. If he looks totally confused at this, explain that you thought by his expression that he wanted to play a silly face game! Drop the subject of the new restaurant. Trust me when I tell you that he will bring it back up. It may not be tonight, or next week, but he will do it!!
Always, in every situation, every conversation, find the positive and focus on that, unless your husband specifically asks you to do otherwise.
This is really proving to be a very good study and I do recommend it to all women, whether married 45 years, or 45 minutes, even those engaged young ladies should give this book a read. There are tons of valuable lessons to be learned, if you just pay attention and allow the Holy Spirit to teach you what He wants you to know!
I will have more on this subject at a later date. If you haven’t read it and you get a chance, be sure to read, “The Respect Dare – 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband”. And if you are doing a Bible study with this book, forget finishing it in 40 days. There is a lot of wonderful material in this book and I don’t think it would do the lesson justice if you attempted to cram the lessons into 40 days. We have been on it since February 10, 2014 and are just now about to discuss Dare 9! So don’t get discouraged. Some people just need to concentrate a little harder on certain areas. Be attentive to that as well and stick to that lesson or goal until she fully understands it. Believe me when I say, none of you, nor your husbands, will ever forget this lesson, and neither will ever regret the either!!
God bless and have a great night, and days to follow. I pray spring has sprung, or is at least very close, in your neck of the woods! It certainly has here!! I’ve started getting visits from my hummingbirds!

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ALL MY BLOGS

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THIS POST ORIGINATED ON ONE OF MY OTHER BLOGS, HTTP://POSITIVELY-PINK-DAISIES.BLOGSPOT.COM/ , AND I WANTED TO SHARE IT WITH ALL POSSIBLE READERS. I HOPE YOU ENJOY!!
ALL MY BLOGS……

I have more than just this blog that I SHOULD be writing on. I always have good intentions of keeping my writing up and then something happens and I just let it go. I am going to attempt to be much better at keeping at least this one up this year! With that in mind, I am going to provide a link to my other blogs, both in this post as well as a more permanent location on one of my sidebars!
I have so many different things that I like to talk about that I easily confuse myself! With that in mind, I think I will attempt to keep each blog going, and have each one with a certain topic ‘focus’. For example, this one would be more about the aspect of my life related to any kind of work or job.
Now, since I am presently unemployed, I will have to be creative with this. I won’t be including only discussion about a job in which I am being paid! (Although, if that does occur, I will most certainly be telling you all about it!) I have a couple of things in the works so hopefully you will be seeing, and enjoying, more written works from me in the very near future!
In the mean time, I invite you to take a look at my other blogs as well! Please, feel free to like or follow each one! I can certainly use all the followers I can get!! Isn’t that one of the reasons that bloggers write in the first place? So people can read their words?? I know it is for me. I do hope you enjoy them and will provide me with some feedback through the comments!!

I will be sharing stories of my family life on https://fghallfamily.wordpress.com/ . Please, check us out and, yes, you can go ahead and tell me just how crazy you think my family truly is!! Trust me. I already know this!!

My walk of faith and belief in Jesus Christ will be documented (for the most part) here: http://simplewordsofachristianmom.wordpress.com/ . I am most certainly not a Biblical scholar, in fact I consider myself a mere infant when it comes to Biblical knowledge, but I do have bits and pieces that I have learned that I like to share. I am also typically very anxious to share when I learn something new! So, beware!! LOL I am always excited to read other people’s opinions or interpretations of God’s word. However, I will NEVER tolerate anyone bashing my Christian beliefs. While I do believe in religious freedom, to me that means that if you do not believe in Jesus Christ, you are free to express that fact elsewhere other than on MY blog! Thank you very much!!

One of my hobbies is scrapbooking. I love to document special moments and occasions through the decorated pages that hold my precious photos! I also love to share those pages and ideas. Of course, I am also always looking for new ideas! So feel free to let me know what you think about what I am presently working on, as well as to share your ideas on http://msjsscrappin.wordpress.com/ . If you visit this blog today, you will notice that it is in dire need of work! In fact, it is in need of more than just a title!! Please check back, or subscribe, so that you will know as soon as I get some stuff posted there!!

You may be asking what is going to happen to this blog, other than to be a relay site for my others. Well, this blog will be my ‘everything else’ blog. I have always wanted to write, (and preferably be paid for it!), so hopefully something that I write about, or say here will be noticed by someone in the publishing world, or even just a small paper or magazine! Who knows? It sure doesn’t hurt to dream now does it? Please leave words of encouragement, advice, or just share bits of your dreams here. I truly don’t mind. But know that if you get selected to be published through my blog, I will expect an autographed copy of whatever you have published!!

So, with all that being said, I look forward to staying busy with these various blogs in different aspects of my life. Will all these blogs have new posts each day, or week? I honestly don’t know! That depends on what I have to say, and how busy I am in other areas of my life. Just know that if I haven’t posted on your favorite recently, you are welcome to respond on my most recent post on one of the others and let me know that you miss me!! Trust me. You won’t hurt my feelings telling me that!!

God bless and have a beautifully blessed day!!

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There is nothing like Texas in the summer time! I’ve lived other places that were hot, Phoenix, Arizona for example, but it is a different kind of heat! I know some people think that is just a cliche’, “It’s not the heat, it’s the humidity”, but it is true! The heat in Arizona is much different from the heat here in good ole southeast Texas! In Phoenix, a summer day is very likely to hit close to 110+ on the thermometer, but it still feels hotter here with the temp being around 95 or so! The humidity definitely has something to do with the way the heat actually FEELS! You just feel so sticky! I have never been a fan of heat. I will take a cold day anytime over a hot day. I have always said that I could always put more clothes on, or cover up in more blankets, but there is only so much you can take off when you are trying to cool off!! Especially if you are in a public place!

Gerald is just an all around outdoors guy! He may burn up, but he would much rather be outside doing something than inside. I ca/n’t even begin to tell you the number of times he has gone through more than 3 shirts in a single day because he soaks them in sweat!! Me, on the other hand, when the temps get above 75-80, you are going to have a tough time getting me outside! Unless there is water up to my neck involved! And hopefully that water will be in the shade! I burn too easily. I used to think there was no big deal to getting sunburned, except that it hurt! But, since reaching my 40’s, and having a father who had to have several skin cancers removed because of sun exposure, I have decided that the nice, golden brown skin isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. I thank God for air conditioning!!

Since my back has gotten so bad, I have not been able to spend hardly any time in my scrap room. Well, there are more reasons than just my back. We also have house guests living with us temporarily. How long is temporarily supposed to be anyway? Just kidding!! I am very happy to have my son and his family staying with us until they can get moved into their own place. It’s just really difficult to have to clear out a room that is FULL of things that need to be stored away, or thrown away, and find somewhere else to put them, when the rest of the house is already filled to the brim with belongings! God has most definitely richly blessed us with material things! We have had to resort to storing a lot of the stuff in none other than my scrap room! We also are using our guest bathroom (that is not completed from when we started remodeling it about two years ago, I think!), for additional storage. So this leaves us with only one bathroom as well!! Yes, we are all cramped! I do have a trail in my scrap room so that I can move around my desk and get to my printer and some other things. But, especially with my back problems, it is difficult to weave in and out of things to get to that one particular item that I just know is in that box at the bottom of that pile!!

Oh well, another month or two and they will get to move out and I will get my spare bedroom back, and I will then convert it into a closet/storage room! I know, why am I making it into a closet? Well, several reasons actually!

First of all, I need a bigger closet!! My closet, which Gerald enlarged for me, and now it takes WAY too much space from our bedroom, is over-flowing! So, the plan is that I will get two of those rolling clothing racks for my closet, and they will be in the spare bedroom because we are going to tear out my closet to give us more room in the bedroom. I just hope I can get by with only two of these racks! We shall see, and if need be, I will get a third!! I will also have an extra dresser in the “closet” so I can store my off season clothes away without putting them in plastic bags and not setting an eye on them again for a couple of years because I forgot where I put them! The secondary idea behind the closet in the spare room is that, by taking out my present closet, we will actually have room for the bedroom furniture that I so dearly love, and have room to actually move around in more than a minute 1-1 1/2 feet of space on either side of the bed! We will also be able to get all the “extra stuff” out of that second bathroom and hopefully, FINALLY FINISH IT!! We will see about that!

I’m not giving up on the idea of us getting a new house! We have wanted to either build a house, or buy a new double wide that will give us PLENTY of space, for several years now. We are much in prayer about that! If God wants us to have a bigger, better house, then it will happen. I found a house plan that I am really fond of, and believe it or not, it is a single story! I have always wanted a two story house, but if God wants us in a new house, I will be just as happy with a single like this plan. Several other things have to fall into place before this can happen though. So, again, we are praying that it all works out!

Back to my scrap room for a minute now. I finally got in there yesterday and actually started doing some more scrapping! I completed two pages in about three hours and I think they turned out really cute! The projects that I have to work on as of today include: pages for Lauren, who is paying me to create pages for her daughters’ scrapbook! Well, poor thing, she has been so patient with me! It has probably been pretty close to a year since I gave her the first set of pages that I had done! I am planning, with God’s help, to be able to contact her in about 2-3 weeks, and give her many more pages! If I can just get in there and work like I did yesterday, it won’t be a problem!

The second project I am working on is an album for our church, Peachtree Baptist Church. I am creating an album on the construction and activities of our new Family Life Center! I cannot even begin to tell you how honored I felt when Jared asked me if I would do this! To be asked to create something like this to honor God and his gifts to us, I feel very inadequate! But, I am going to give it my all and pray that people enjoy looking at it, and God will get all the praise and glory! Without Him, I would not be doing this!

Then there is my third project. This project is very special. I am creating an album for a young family, in remembrance of their son and brother, Baby Thomas. Baby Thomas was born with a birth defect which was severe enough that his little body could not sustain life. Sadly, this little angel went to be with Jesus just a couple of days after entering this world, and blessing everyone who had any kind of contact with him or his loving family. This family suffered a loss that I can not even begin to try to imagine! The pain that they deal with on a daily basis is just gut-wrenching. God definitely knew what he was doing though. He sent this little angel to earth to touch the hearts of at least several hundred people, many who never even met him! The story of the journey this family has taken from the day they found out about his abnormality, has been very eloquently shared with many, many people, through a simple blog, “The Little Journey of Baby Thomas”, written by his mother, Holly. You can check it out here -> thelittlejourneyofbabythomas.blogspot.com/ .    Anyway, I am working on an album for this family and I want it to be perfect for them! I pray that God helps me to create pages for this album that will be at least half as special and wonderful as Baby Thomas and his family. They deserve the absolute best!

Finally, I am hoping that I can jump-start my Stampin’ Up! business. I have to sell at least $300 by the end of June in order to remain an active demonstrator, and I really want to be able to remain active. I don’t know if I am going to be lucky enough to sell that much in a two week time span or not, but I plan to try! With God’s help, I will get it done, but only if it is His will. Sometimes, Gods will for us is so hard for us to understand. We know that we really want to work hard for this particular item or job or whatever! But, if it is not Gods will, we will not succeed at whatever we are attempting to do. So, I pray that my succeeding with this business is within Gods will, because it is something that I really enjoy doing, and would love to be able to contribute to our family finances through this. Only time will tell, but I am going to be praying!

Well, I have plenty of scrapbooking to do, so I am going to get busy with that! If you are interested in anything related to scrapbooking, card making, or any type of paper crafting, please email me, visit my Stampin’ Up! site, or comment here, and I will be happy to help you! I look forward to hearing from you!

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Have a great day!  Be sure to thank God for all of His wonderful gifts He has given you!!